The Groom's Mother
Your mother has been your Number 1 for all of your life. It’s a time in her life now that she will be handing you over to another woman - her soon-to-be daughter-in-law - who will take her place and be your new Number 1! It is an extremely big day for you both and very important to make your mom feel part of it.
The old tradition was for the mother of the bride to do all the work and as so the mother of the groom just had to show up and look pretty. But, as with everything else, most traditions have long ago been left behind. As grooms are now playing a more active role so are their mothers. How precise you stick to the duties is really up to both of you.
Below is a basic list of duties she could follow:
- The first thing, once she hears of the big announcement, is to contact the bride’s parents and offer her help in anything she could do.
- She will need to plan and host the rehearsal dinner.
- She will write up the guest list for the grooms’ side (taking into account the limit of guests provided by her son).
- She is the one who is to contact any guests who have not RSVPed by the requested time.
- She is also expected to attend the bridal shower and, of course, to bring a gift.
Your mother will be expected to consult with the brides mother about what they will be wearing on the big day as their outfits are supposed to be similar – they must not be the same in color or style, but must compliment one another. Nor should she wear the same color as the bridesmaids. With this in mind it is quite important that both the mothers get this sorted as soon as possible to leave enough time for either/both to have outfits made.
For the mother & son dance the groom’s mother gets to select the song. She is also supposed to support the groom’s father as he delivers his toasts to the couple and family. Should there be a lighting of candles, both the groom’s and the bride’s parents will perform ceremony.
Beyond all of these traditions, she might also help in researching vendors, sites and other bits of planning. She can also help with all the creative bits too like the gift bags or arranging the seating assignments. It is she who lets guests or any other interested parties know where the couple has their registry. Your mother can do just about anything as long as she is willing. This is a happy day for her too and she will most certainly be more than eager to help in any way she can. |
